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When you ask me what's wrong with meeting people over social media, you haven't made yourself clear if you are referring about meeting them face to face after interacting with them on social media or you mean "meeting" them online because "meeting" them online and then not face to face is NOT socialising nor is it "meeting". It's interacting. There is a huge difference.Champione wrote:What's wrong with meeting people over social media? You can meet more people than ever before. Not every can or wants to go down to a pub or coffee shop to meet knew people anymore. How many new people are you meeting may I ask? Compare that to someone who also uses social media to meet knew people and see the difference. Also what about someone who is shy. To shove them into a busy place like a pub might be too far. They can build up communication skills talking online before maybe going out into the real world and socialising.Arsenäl FC wrote:No mid life crisis here mate. Not trying to sound patronising but ever hear of the saying as you get older, you get more wiser? Infact, I would personally judge myself as having a mid life crisis if I was using social media sites wanting to meet new people... I'm pretty sure my mates would refer to me as Billy no mates as it would be more sensible for example to just go down to some pub and meet people face to face for some real socialisingFox Valley FC wrote:Am I too late to attend the mid life crisis rant meeting?
I'm currently waiting for my lunch to be served sitting in some cafe hence my reason I'm replying to you now as i wait. Lots of people I don't know. Can chat away to them as i please. Why not give it a go? You said before you just spend 1 hour a day on social sites but you never told me what the social sites do for you. You might think you need to have some kind of social site but really you don't.
You mention about someone who is shy. To use the analogy of shoving them into a busy pub might be too far is weak as nobody is going to do that. There were shy people well before the internet existed.
As a father of 3 I hate it. So many 'accounts' out there claiming to be people they're not.
Am I getting something wrong here. The point you were trying to make was that people should spend stop using social media and rather go outside am I wrong? If so then both points apply to communicating over social media. Both meeting face to face and talking over the internet. You said earlier that you would rather go to the pub to meet someone rather than do it over some form of social media. Some people might prefer that yes but it is much easier to find someone ideal over social media.Arsenäl FC wrote:When you ask me what's wrong with meeting people over social media, you haven't made yourself clear if you are referring about meeting them face to face after interacting with them on social media or you mean "meeting" them online because "meeting" them online and then not face to face is NOT socialising nor is it "meeting". It's interacting. There is a huge difference.Champione wrote:What's wrong with meeting people over social media? You can meet more people than ever before. Not every can or wants to go down to a pub or coffee shop to meet knew people anymore. How many new people are you meeting may I ask? Compare that to someone who also uses social media to meet knew people and see the difference. Also what about someone who is shy. To shove them into a busy place like a pub might be too far. They can build up communication skills talking online before maybe going out into the real world and socialising.Arsenäl FC wrote:No mid life crisis here mate. Not trying to sound patronising but ever hear of the saying as you get older, you get more wiser? Infact, I would personally judge myself as having a mid life crisis if I was using social media sites wanting to meet new people... I'm pretty sure my mates would refer to me as Billy no mates as it would be more sensible for example to just go down to some pub and meet people face to face for some real socialisingFox Valley FC wrote:Am I too late to attend the mid life crisis rant meeting?
I'm currently waiting for my lunch to be served sitting in some cafe hence my reason I'm replying to you now as i wait. Lots of people I don't know. Can chat away to them as i please. Why not give it a go? You said before you just spend 1 hour a day on social sites but you never told me what the social sites do for you. You might think you need to have some kind of social site but really you don't.
You mention about someone who is shy. To use the analogy of shoving them into a busy pub might be too far is weak as nobody is going to do that. There were shy people well before the internet existed.
I have social media to do several things. Talk to friends about various stuff (e.g Work, games that kind of stuff). I use it too see the content I enjoy. For example I follow Arsenal and the Premier League on Instagram. I can see when a manager gets sacked from a PL team. I can see when a player's contract gets removed. I've found out lots more stuff that I might have either go told later on or that I may have never found out. Having social media is a real benefit. I'm not saying you should use it for hours a day (though there is nothing wrong with it a person can live there life how they want) but having social media makes it easier to communicate without having to go through the long process of meeting someone face to face over something.
About the shy person. Did you miss the point I was trying to make in that social media and talking online in general can build up confidence to go outside in a busy environment and actually talk to someone. Yes it is not the same as meeting someone face to face but it is still communicating with someone which is better than nothing. Some people relish the time for example to watch their favourite YouTuber's content and it helps them feel at ease.
And how about if I move abroad and want to still keep in touch with my best friend for example so we can both see how each other is doing. Social media allows it so we can still be updated with someone else and see that they are doing well even without being in the same country.
True but it isn't that hard to spot fake accounts and quickly unfollow or report themFC Venom wrote:As a father of 3 I hate it. So many 'accounts' out there claiming to be people they're not.
Tell that to the parents whose kids have gone missing and been killed.Champione wrote:True but it isn't that hard to spot fake accounts and quickly unfollow or report themFC Venom wrote:As a father of 3 I hate it. So many 'accounts' out there claiming to be people they're not.
In that case it is down to the parents to monitor their child's social media and make sure they are not talking to or meeting anyone they shouldn't be.FC Venom wrote:Tell that to the parents whose kids have gone missing and been killed.Champione wrote:True but it isn't that hard to spot fake accounts and quickly unfollow or report themFC Venom wrote:As a father of 3 I hate it. So many 'accounts' out there claiming to be people they're not.
Banned in this house, for the kids. They can make their own decisions when they're old enough n wise enough. My 14 yr old lassie sneakily had it, turned out there were loads of older men following her. From all over the world. I'm certainly not comfortable with that.
It's here, forever, though.